Stop Over-Explaining

Something I notice is that we have a tendency to over-explain ourselves. We do it in our own minds. For example, let's say I'm trying to make a decision. I'll think about something, and then I'll rationalize it and explain it to myself why it's a good choice, or why it’s a bad choice.

You can start with not over-explaining to yourself. If you breathe and feel your way into your body, it's easier to come up with a clear decision without the need for an elaborate explanation or reason why.

If you breathe and feel your way into your body, it's easier to come up with a clear decision.

Ever notice yourself over-explain when someone asks you to do something that you don’t want to do? You tell them all the reasons why you don't want to do it. You don't really need to do that.

Wouldn't it be something if we could just say, “No, I don't really wanna do that. That doesn't resonate with me. And thanks for asking. I love to be included.”

Over-explaining seems to be a habit of our culture. You can start to play with this, if you want to, and just notice how often you do it, and notice how often someone else does it as well.

I'll ask someone a question and I just wanna know the answer, a simple yes or no answer, and they'll give me a 15-minute explanation. Try simplifying. Play with this. Notice it and see if you can do it without making yourself wrong.